2. No matter how stressed up you are, never show your concern to us through anger. It does not solve a thing, makes us cry, and worsens our emotional stability. Face it: No matter how stressful you are, it's nothing compared to the stress of the new mother.
3. There is no need to burn extra calories and waste 5 seconds of your time just to comment on how huge the new mom looks like. We have mirrors. We know how fat we are. It's about time you knock your own head for a wake-up call: A spanking new human being has just popped out of her body!
4. Do not give any comments (positive/negative) on ANY of the new mom's body parts, especially when they are pretty private. It's awkward. After all, we have had more than enough strangers looking at our private parts during pregnancy, labour and post-labour. The only response I can give is "hrmmm..."
5. Staring at my chest when I'm breast-feeding isn't cool either. It has been a sacred, holy, and noble area of my body for the past 26 years. Giving birth does not change its status to a public display.
6. Please do not complain that you are damn bored just living in the house. In normal circumstances, new mothers can't go out of the house for freakin' 44 days!!! Wanna compare?
7. Don't dwell on how bad your skin texture looks like. Wanna see my stretch marks???
8. Also, talking non-stop about how concerned you are about your body shape with me isn't helping. Wanna see my flabs??
9. There is no need to ask me the same questions over and over again every time you see my face about why my mom was not around when I gave birth and why I live afar from my baby. Is it to difficult to fathom that there's no sane mother who would intentionally do that to her daughters/sons?? So, there must be a good reason why that happens/ed.
If you ask that for first time, that is simply a normal human reaction. If you ask too many times, it either means you are trying your best to annoy and sadden me, you are trying to make me feel like my mother doesn't love me and I'm also a bad mother, or you simply have an acutely dysfunctional memory system, worse than mine.
10. Whenever you feel like showering us with less-than-respectful words and "kerek" body and verbal languages, being angry with us, or simply ignoring us, please remember our sacrifices, both physical and emotional, in your life. We are mere humans. LOVE us...
~~'Coz you really don't know how much time you have left to show her your appreciation & love. And make her smile & laugh.